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The 'Ministry' of Marriage

"Ministry" is from the Greek word diakoneo, meaning "to serve". In the New Testament, ministry is seen as service to God and to other people in His name. Jesus provided the pattern for Christian ministry—He came, not to receive service, but to give it (see Matthew 20:28; Mark 10:45; John 13:1-17).

The Christian should minister by meeting people's needs with love and humility on Christ's behalf (see Matthew 20:26; Mark 10:43; John 2:5,9; Acts 6:3; Romans 1:1; Galatians 1:10; Colossians 4:12). Christians are to minister to others out of their devotion to Christ and their love for others, whether the other people are believers or unbelievers. Ministry to others should be impartial and unconditional, always seeking to help others as Jesus would.

What Does the Bible Says About Marriage?

Gen. 2:18, 21-24

The Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him'...and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh.Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, 'This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man.' For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. (NIV)
For those of us who are married, I believe that God wants to take us to the place where we no longer see our spouse as just a soul mate, friend, companion, support - but as the precious Gift that God has given us and who we are accountable before God to serve as Jesus would. Husbands, wives, will you commit to ministering to your spouse with even more commitment and humility than you would minister to the sick, needy and 'lost'?
May God grant us all the Grace we need to fulfill this important calling.
- Karen
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' "There's no love left in my marriage, what can I do?"- Kay Arthur

Useful Links

'State of the Union' Marriage Booklet

Prayer for breaking conflict and restoring relationship

Marital Communication - Recession-proof your marriage

Emotional Needs Questionnaire

The Most Important Emotional Needs

How to Forgive with Consequences

Healing Your Broken Marriage

Sex, God & Marriage e-book

Does Your Marriage Need Help?

Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage Bible Study

YouTube Video - How Will We Love?

50 Ways To Love Your Lover

Relationship Wants Worksheet

Encourage One Another Bible Study

Respecting your spouse

"Honey, I'm sorry"

Porn & Sex Addiction

Being There
By Dan Seaborn

Several simple behaviors will help you pursue emotional connectedness. Here are a few:

Help Me Help You
Develop a relationship of vulnerability in which you can freely talk about moods and values with your spouse. Don’t wait for him to ask for an explanation about why you’ve been negative lately; open up and tell him what’s on your mind.

Ask Second-Tier Questions
Pursue greater emotional depth in conversation with your wife. Instead of sticking to only the facts (“How was your afternoon?” and “Are you upset?”), ask questions that will get below the surface. Rather than learning about your spouse, begin to really learn your spouse. For example, if she tells you she’s had a “tough week,” second-tier questions would dig deeper:

  • What about this week made it so tough?
  • How long have you felt this way?
  • Are there things about our relationship that made this week tough?
  • What does “tough” mean to you?

Pay Attention
Notice the things that affect your spouse. What does he react strongly to? What bothers him? What makes him chuckle? What makes him erupt with laughter? Tuning in to his behavior is a great way to better understand his feelings and concerns.

Mean It
Ask her how she’s doing, and really care about her response enough to shut your mouth and listen to it. Listen, listen, listen —without offering advice or a solution unless she specifically asks for it. Let your posture, facial expressions, and tone of voice convey your true concern.

When you shed your own shoes in order to walk in your spouse’s for a while, you can’t help but experience new levels of emotional connectedness. You become closer, more intimate, more in sync. It’s great. Still, that’s not to say it’s easy. In reality, some of the strongest marital bonds come under the worst of circumstances.

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